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Susan @ 10:35 PM
Wednesday, April 05, 2006
My baby was due yesterday....
But I'm still pregnant.
I'm actually quite happy to wait for another two weeks or even a month(Peter was due April 4th, and he was born May 4th. His mom did everything to hurry him up, even jumping down the table...), but I get embarrased and even a bit annoyed when I have to settle everyone else's curiosity and concern....lol. Sometimes I just want to hide.
One of the biggest struggle in my mind is how I should handle confinement. You know, I have a Chinese background. The Chinese have very strict rules about confinement. Then I have lots of asian friends here, they also have their tradition and culture about confinement. And of course, there's the western care free way. I'm really stuck in between all these culture clashes. I don't know which one to follow, or how much I should follow.
Just for some example, the Chinese want you to stay in bed for 30 days, no showers, no washing hair, no cold drinks, no salt, not even drinking water.... but the western doctors will instead force you to have shower, and give you ice blocks and want you to go for walks... The Chinese recipes like you to drink lots of pork soup, especially pork liver soup, but the westerns (especailly the colour conference I just went to) think that's absolutely filth. Then there's the singapore way, the Malaysian way....
The things is, the Chinese mothers have a whole team of support: husband on maternity leave for the whole month, both sets of parents, maids.... but I have hardly any. Instead, I still have three kids to chase around. My husband didn't take any leave for my three kids when they were born, hopefully this time he can take a few days off. But for the 30 days confinement that's just impossible.
Every Chinese I met was so concerned and serious about the confinement. But every western people (especially my husband) I know just think it's such a joke and ridiculous. And I'm stuck in the middle. I really don't know how much I should follow and if I don't follow am I still gonna be alright. I was trying to find out what the Bible has to say about this and couldn't get anywhere.
Anyone has a clue?
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